If God Wanted You To Be Perfect, He Would Have Created You That Way

When my book Untangled was first released, I was anxious to find it in stores. There is something affirming about seeing your work—the 260 page baby you just birthed—sitting on a shelf for the world to see. It wasn’t a pride issue, it was a gratitude issue. God and I had done a lot of work through those pages.

I battled deep insecurities as I wrote.

Not only was God asking me to face the feelings of worthlessness that had plagued me since childhood, I was also facing limitations as a writer. My words weren’t as potent as other authors I loved to read. I didn’t have the powerful catch phrases that would stick like in other books I’ve read.

Honestly, I felt “lucky” to have even gotten a book deal and was worried the editor at the publishing house was going to laugh at my attempt to be a writer. And to top it off, God asked me to share some very painful stories—stories that made me worry about being judged or criticized. And while God healed some very tangled places in me as I penned it, I still struggled to feel that it was good enough.

Almost every time I visited a bookstore to see if I could find it, I couldn’t. The helpful sellers would ask, “Can I call you when it’s back in stock?” Struggling with the confidence to admit I was the one who shed blood, sweat and tears as I wrote the book, I usually shook my head and told them I’d check back later.

But this time was different.

I mustered my courage, took a deep breath, and said, “Actually, I’m the author.” And that simple sentence tangled me into deep knots of insecurity because the enemy quickly whispered… “I can’t believe you admitted that. You’re a horrible writer, and your book is a joke.”

I hate when he does that, and I hate even more when I listen. Sometimes his voice is unrelenting though, and it’s all I can do to remember that perfection isn’t God’s goal for our lives—obedience is. And when we do what God is asking, He will bless it.

God knows our limitations. He is fully aware of the places we fall short. And what He is looking for in you and me is our… yes. Because the truth is, He doesn’t call the perfect. He perfects the called.

Paul knew this first hand. I just love this guy because he is real and honest and relatable. Listen to him tackle this struggle in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 MSG.

“My grace is enough; it’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness. Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ’s strength moving in on my weakness. Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size—abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become”.

Paul found a way to be content with being imperfect. As a matter of fact, he was relieved that he didn’t have to be something he was never meant to be.

What a powerful truth. You see, when we spend time lamenting over the places we fall short, we’re not allowing God’s strength to make up the difference. We see our limitations as deal-breakers, but God doesn’t. He sees them as opportunities.

Let’s face it, we’re not all that and a bag of chips. We may not be the best leaders or teachers. We may fall short as moms and wives. Chances are we’re not the most thoughtful friends or caregivers. And we can become so focused on our limitations that we forget that God starts where we stop. We are not—and will never be—perfect women.

So the next time you start to feel inadequate, I want you to remember…

1) You have human-sized limitations by design. That’s why you need God. He didn’t create you to be complete without Him. So don’t try to be.

2) Rather than seeing your limitations as handicaps, see them as God-designed opportunities for Him to fill. Let it be a beautiful part of your relationship with your Creator.

3) There is nothing more glorious than a real woman who can ask for help, laugh at herself when she messes up, and be vulnerable with her struggles. Be like that.

I’m working on my next book now, and I’m having a blast! I’ve settled in my heart that I will write to my best ability and trust God for the rest. This go-round, I’m not comparing my style to anyone else’s, and I’m not worried what others might think of my writing. Hey, I’m not perfect right?

And sweet sisters, rest knowing neither are you.

Carey Scott

Carey Scott is the author of Untangled, a book where she bravely shares her story of abuse, the insecurities birthed from it, and the freedom she now has through Jesus. She is also an international speaker who loves to have honest conversations about real life. She discusses the struggles women face the most, always reminding them of their immeasurable value. Carey lives in Northern Colorado with her family. Learn more by visiting CareyScottTalks. You can also connect with her on Facebook or Twitter.  

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Carey Scott January 12, 2017 at 7:17am

Erika... Suzie... Cynthia... Krystal... Carroll... Lisa... Thank you for taking the time to comment! I love when God uses my story to touch the heart of others, and I love knowing that He met you in my words. Your responses bless me right back! :)

💕Erika Alexis Lopez💕👸🏻 January 8, 2017 at 9:44am

💕So true. Once you realize & accept this truth you become so free. Thank you Lord for your Grace, it truly is more than enough.🙏🏻❤💕👸🏻

Suzie@SuziesView January 8, 2017 at 8:38am

Ok this is right on time girl. Thank you for being so real with us. I needed to hear this today. Congrads on book number one and two! Keep shinning for Jesus!

Cynthia January 8, 2017 at 5:36am

Carey, thank you so much for your article. God always knows exactly what we need to hear. I have finished the final draft of my first book and was struggling with the same issues you discussed concerning the book being good enough and the vulnerability behind it. This was a boost of encouragement that I humbly receive because I realize that divine appointments, even in this manner, can be just as effective as the personal touch of meeting one-on-one. (I don't have to be perfect, just obedient.) Thank you again and God bless!

Krystal January 8, 2017 at 4:40am

This article is wonderful. It was real and relatable. It spoke to my soul and helped set me free. The transparency and vulnerability of the author helps the reader know they aren't alone in feeling inadequate. I learned there is no reason for distress over imperfections. Thank you.

Carroll January 8, 2017 at 4:33am

Thank u for reminding me that I am created with flaws. Blessings on your new book!

lisa January 8, 2017 at 3:10am

I can relate to this. I could write my own book. Sometimes I feel like God has healed certain things in my life but somehow at times I don't see my self as being really changed I just exist. I feel like I am on the outside looking in. I also have a auti immune illness that keeps me isolated. I guess I can try to embrace it and allow God to work through me.