Not Lonely, But Blessed

Less than a year ago, I moved to California to pursue my dreams with nothing but two suitcases and a laptop.

The idea seemed pretty glamorous at first. If I were to have had a mantra at the time it would have been, “Step out on nothing so that God can accomplish everything.” However, when I made the decision to move to California I don’t think I fully comprehended the fact that nothing actually meant nothing.

I moved away from a place that I called home and gave up the comfort of having my family and friends near in order to start my life over in a state that I had never visited before and had zero connections in.

When I was younger, I use to dream about having great faith experiences with God. My favorite account of faith in the bible is Matthew 14, where Peter jumps out of the boat onto the Sea of Galilee and walks on the water with Jesus. However, lately when I read the passage my focus is less drawn to the experience that Peter had with Jesus and more towards the dynamic that Peter shared with the other disciples in that moment.

No other disciples jumped out of the boat with Peter and that made it possible for him to have an intimate experience with Jesus.

Maybe you’ve recently felt the call of God on your life to become a missionary in an unknown country. Or maybe you took on a job that required you to move out of state and away from your family and friends. Or suppose you recently broke up with your long time significant other and are struggling to picture a future for yourself that doesn’t include them.

Well sis, I feel your discomfort, but let me say this-

Although being alone is far from easy it can be a blessing if perceived correctly.

May I propose to you that seasons where we find ourselves alone are in fact gifts placed in our lives to help strengthen our faith and our foundations.

So what do you do in seasons when you find yourself alone?

1. Take Inventory

This may seem like a simple task, but when was the last time you took personal inventory of your life and asked yourself questions like, “What areas can I grow in? What skills do I want to learn? Am I doing my best to reflect God’s heart?”  These questions will help guide your day to day journey with God as you seek Him on how to become the best version of yourself and keep your thought life constructive.

Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23-24 KJV)

2. Be Productive

Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean that you have to stop living your life. Pick up a hobby, explore a new city, learn a new recipe or get involved in your local community and church. Self-pity is a dangerous weapon and can only be combatted when we take action against it by being positive and growing.

“Take a lesson from the ants, you lazy fellow. Learn from their ways and be wise! For though they have no king to make them work, yet they labor hard all summer, gathering food for the winter. But you—all you do is sleep. When will you wake up?” (Proverbs 6:6-9 TLB)

3. Build Relationships

If you are currently waiting on God to send you friendships and/or a spouse don’t wait until they show up to start being a good person. Intentionally serve those who are currently in your life, learn to be a good listener, and find any and every opportunity to sow the kind of seeds that you one day want to harvest.

“Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them.” Matthew 7:12 MSG

4. Embrace The Experience

Don’t miss the opportunity to experience the fullness of God in this moment.

We must understand that God embraces our loneliest moments and wants to fill them with His goodness. God’s desire is to give us an intimate experience where our trust and dependency becomes stabilized in His presence alone.

The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. (Psalm 18:2 NIV)

My dear sister, if you find yourself feeling lonely, I dare to you to believe the truth about your situation. The truth that you are not alone, but blessed with an opportunity to grow with God.

Maureé Sullivan

Maureé Sullivan is a Detroit native who is passionate about spreading God's love through the creative arts. She is an art director, blogger and recent college graduate who now enjoys spending her days in sunny California as a part of the Propel team. You can connect with Maureé on Instagram, Facebook and ByMaureé.com.

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Susan Gruener February 20, 2017 at 8:55am

Thanks for this Mauree.
Even though I'm a grandmother, and have almost none of these things that I would identify with your situation, God has used you to pour truths into my heart.
We never know how what we say or write will touch someone else...
Bless you!
Susan

Nicole February 18, 2017 at 2:39am

Great article. It's such reality. I am going to forward the article to my 22 year old daughter Ashton.

Cynthia February 16, 2017 at 11:26am

This spoke to my heart, very timely. Thank you so much for sharing.

Alex February 14, 2017 at 2:10pm

Figuring out my next steps since graduating college & this was for me - indeed it spoke to my heart. Thank you for sharing Maureé! It's such a blessing and so life-giving to do life in community and learn from others experiences.

yulanda smith February 14, 2017 at 1:58pm

I needed that spiritual healing.the article was so amazing an a easy of peace. I will always kno that God is near.Thank you sis!

Gwendolyn February 14, 2017 at 1:48pm

I just graduated and moved to Houston, away from my best friends and the only church family I've ever known. It's been tough, but the lonelier I've gotten, the more fully I have felt the presence of God. I know He is working in my life and I couldn't be more grateful. Thank you for the encouragement. <3

connie johnson February 13, 2017 at 10:12am

At 25, I plunged into a new life 14,000 miles away from everything I knew or was familiar with. I moved to South Australia where my life blossomed with opportunities I would never ever had a chance to do in Philadelphia. At that time, Australia (THE SAME SIZE AS THE CONTINENTAL U.S.A.) had a population of 8 million people, 70% of which lived in Sydney or Melbourne. Because there were so few people with my education or skill-set, I was working the second day I lived here....doing my dream job. I have absolutely never regretted taking that huge plunge in my life, and being open to what God had in store for me to do. If you follow in the way you believe God is leading you, you will find a whole new world of amazing experiences and friends out there just waiting to meet you, I say, "GO FOR IT!"
#NEVER BEEN HAPPIER

lisa February 13, 2017 at 4:25am

I want to join propel. I mean I want to work for you. I am a photographer and graphic designer

Yasmen February 13, 2017 at 2:49am

Just loved this article. It strongly identifies where I am at in life today. My focus now will be on the blessings of being alone. Really needed this today.

Diane February 12, 2017 at 1:23pm

After a very challenging week at the office I was feeling very alone. After reading your article, I have a different perspective. I am reminded that I am never alone and that God is with me to work it out. Your article is beautifully written, thank you.

Melanie February 12, 2017 at 11:25am

This is a very timely word for me. Thank you for the encouragement and different perspective on this season.

Krystle February 12, 2017 at 5:46am

I love this article. Great tips. I used to dread the alone seasons in my life. Now I enjoy them because as the article says it's in the alone moments that we grow with God. Thanks for the great tips.

Molly February 12, 2017 at 3:50am

As a military spouse I've walk through many seasons like this. Great lessons and advice! Sharing with my military spouse friends :)

Catie Cle February 12, 2017 at 3:47am

Great article Maureé, very encouraging! Thanks a lot! Blessings, Catie

Kathy February 12, 2017 at 3:03am

Thanks so much Mauree for your insight!

Patrice Guillory February 12, 2017 at 1:25am

This really ministered to my heart today! I packed up and moved from California to Georgia! I'm currently living with a friend and I start a new job Monday but I'm scared that I'm going to fail out here. I'm worried and I know it's not what God wants me to feel! I believe He led me here but I feel like I have nothing. I need prayer and I really want to get on my feet soon!!

Sherry February 12, 2017 at 1:15am

I thank God for this timely article. I have been struggling with loneliness in this new season of my life. My husband and I moved to Florida almost 8 years ago, where we knew no one and started a new life. We got involved in a local church, quickly became leaders of ministry, made new friends and we're enjoying serving God together. We had dreams for our future and plans for our ministry together.

My husband suddenly got sick and 40 days later went home to be with the Lord. Everything changed in a heartbeat. My ministry, as I knew it, was over in the sense that I could no longer do it as a "single".

As I try to see what His plan and purpose is for my life, I'm contemplating a move to another state where, again, I will have to start all over. Only this time alone. There are days when the loneliness seems to overtake me and I want nothing to do with this "new normal"!

Yet my prayer is that my faith would be bigger than my fears. That I would continue to find what God is leading me to do; but most of all that I would know beyond the shadow of a doubt, that I am never alone. He promised to always be with me. Even on those days when I can't feel Him!