How to Move Forward When Your Dreams Seem to Die 

I’m a dreamer! As a little girl, I dreamt of being a cowgirl, a policewoman, a singer, a movie star, and more. As a teenager, I dreamt of becoming a supermodel who would walk the runways, grace the covers of magazines, and marry a rockstar.  I lived in the world of make-believe and larger-than-life dreams. As a woman navigating through my 20s and 30s, I dreamt of having a house full of children.  

Many of my dreams have come to life while some have never seen the light of day. Others have come to pass but they look different than what I imagined they would. In my mid-30s, I received a blow that would change my life forever, causing one of my dreams to die. I had given birth to two boys and was hoping to have a little girl. Shortly after my youngest son was born, I was told I wasn’t able to have any more children. Now what? I was devastated. How could this be? I was spinning with confusion, trying to find clarity and simple truths. I dug into my Bible, seeking the Lord for His will. His dreams for my life. 

Could I dream again without fear? The answer was YES. God was doing something new in my life. He began to open the doors to my childhood dream of being a movie star. This seemed so crazy and bold, but God took me and my family to Hollywood at the age of 39. 

He gave me my first major film role at the age of 40. As the dream came to life, so did many other dreams I had lingering in my head, like writing a book, speaking to teenage moms and starting a women’s ministry, The Women In My World.  While the dream of having a daughter died, it came to life according to the Lord’s will by filling my life and my house with women. Maybe I didn’t get my own daughter, but I certainly have been given an opportunity to love on, encourage, and empower women around the world. Dreams do come true, they just might not look like what we imagined.


Keep your eyes on Jesus! 

He is the God of the impossible. He uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary, like Esther the Jewish orphan girl who became a queen and helped save her people. Or David, the last to be chosen, who became king  Or Sarah who gave birth at the age of 99. Or Mary, an unwed teenager that would give birth to Christ the Savior of the world. I’m sure that each one of these Bible heroes had dreams come to pass while other dreams died. Their stories prove that when the God of the impossible steps in, He’s always there and ready to give us a bigger, bolder dream that works in accordance with His will.  

God has a plan for our lives, and that includes our dreams. He gave them to us. Ephesians 2:10 tells us, For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”  Walk in the confidence and hope that He has a plan for you.  Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”  

I think of the women that Jesus encountered in the Gospels. Each one was worthy and purposeful.  I’m sure those women longed, as we do, for their dreams to come true and their lives to be used for good. I’m sure they faced many disappointments.  However, Jesus empowered them by giving life to their stories, and when one dreamed died, He gave them a new dream, a dream that would allow them to be part of history, to remind us to never give up. 

Let’s not forget that we are children of the God of all creation. Let’s throw off our self-imposed limitations. There is no limit to what God can do. Nothing is too outrageous or improbable for Him. The Lord wants to do things that no man can do. He delights in surprising us! KEEP DREAMING! 

 


Shari Rigby

Shari Rigby is an actress, director, producer, author and inspirational speaker. She is best known for her roles in Overcomer, October Baby, The Least of These, Not Today, and Wildflower. Outspoken and passionate about her faith and family, Shari continues to thrive in the entertainment industry as a role model and mentor to women of all ages through her ministry, The Women In My World. Shari’s latest book Consider the Lilies (iDisciple). Shari and her husband, Matt, have been married for twenty-three years and have been blessed to raise two boys together.