Before this world, and the circumstances of your life, became the loudest voice in your heart, screaming at you ever-changing lies about your value and your worth, God had something important to say. You were fearfully and wonderfully made first.
I have determined in my heart that the outcome isn’t my responsibility. That job belongs to God. My job, the part Jesus has asked me to play in this equation, is obedience and perseverance. But in order for me to do this, I have had to make three resolves.
Through the sharing of her own impactful experiences, Alicia Britt Chole gives us 3 questions we can ask ourselves when facing a battle with assumption helping us to add humility back into humanity one step at a time.
Here’s the hard truth, we aren’t excluded from greatness. We are just seeds comparing ourselves to the oak trees we will become. A seed’s entire potential is packed in the smallest of forms. In fact, it cracks, breaks, and reforms constantly to become its destiny.
Of course, no friendship is perfect, because, well, none of us are perfect; but we can pursue healthy friendships, in which we bring out the best in others and they bring out the best in us. Figuring out how to have flourishing friendships isn’t always the easiest, and for a lot of my twenties, I was sifting through the highs and lows of relationships to figure out the difference between toxic friendships and healthy ones.
After a week of struggling with God, I gave up fighting. Truth be told, I was in the midst of training for an Ironman, and I was just too tired to dwell on anything else. Moreover, months of isolated training for up to 20 hours a week did wonders for my relationship with God, as I spent much of that time praying and learning to hear His voice. I knew what I’d heard, and was prepared to give dating over to God, even if it meant giving up on my dream.
Honesty hour: Sometimes you just have to have an honest conversation (or a few dozen). Air out the room. I am not saying this is always an available option but, if you've got an open door to talk about it, I would say you should really try to be honest with the difficult person. Sometimes, it's a matter of trying to understand what is making them so on edge. What's going on there?
I am praying that as you read this, you will hear the alarms sounding off, calling for women to awaken and arise while it is still night, while darkness is all around. And as you rise, may the light of God shine upon you and your enemies tremble beneath you.
The one thing is knew for sure in all of the chaos was that The Father was teaching me to dance while the tears streamed down my face. That both pain and promise could exist in the same soul. I began to ask the Holy Spirit to teach me a new way of thinking, to lift my eyes to another realm. I prayed He would so transform my mind that eternity would become more present to me than this skin that was hosting me for my numbered days on earth.
Accepting a definition of the best version of ourselves without dissecting where it comes from is dangerous. If we view “her” through any other lense than the eyes of the One who created her, we are chasing a mold we weren’t created to fill. And, as many of us know, trying to find that woman is exhausting and defeating.
It is far better to be defined by our character, integrity, and high moral and ethical standards than by a title. Titles change, our roles change, but our character defines us and what we believe. Our character is the outward expression of what is in our hearts and what is driving us from within.
Friendship is an overflow of His love for us, for His glory.
God’s heartbeat is for us to be in relationship with one another, so that we can encourage each other and walk out our destinies together.
Let us not go into friendships and relationships with expectations of what we should get, but instead with the desire to bring Glory to the Kingdom of God.